I first became interested in BDSM during my master's program in psychology when I chose to write a paper on sadomasochism. I wrote more papers on SM during my master's and PhD programs, then ultimately wrote my doctoral dissertation on erotically submissive men. During this time, I took workshops and classes on different BDSM topics, preparing myself to work as a professional dominatrix. If anything will ever show how expectations can alter this must be it. It’s so good to read about another who has come to embrace the inevitable, the bonus for your ex- being that your Mum and sister will think well of her for what she did. i do not think you….or us…the sissies, are weird… i think we are perfectly matched and just waiting to be pushed to the next level… and that is what drives us across the fields of trepidation…excitement …and downright terror! We thrive on an element of fear and adrenaline.. like being told to drive to the quiet lane down the road dressed en femme…and having to get out and photograph ourselves uncomfortably standing there exposed…fearful of discovery. Fact. Each of the encounters took place as described just not all in the same evening. I changed everyone’s names for obvious reasons. She led me into her amazing bedroom .. richly appointed and totally feminine. I stood there as she opened a dresser drawer and dumped an enormous pile of her panties onto the bed.

Clothes- Find something that you like her to wear and surprise her with it when she is following a rule. You could start with lingerie and tell her that she will get the complete outfit as she continues to comply with the rules. Under the age of 40 males slaves tend to be immature, insecure and see the relationship with a Mistress as some kind of fantasy game. In A Popular Mistress, THE GOVERNESS is based in Bournemouth and offers a varied experience in the Arts and Mysteries of Fetish/BDSM. I once read of a relationship of wife and her sissy husband doing something like marriage. In this marriage the husband wore a wedding dress. If I were you I would start by putting her through her paces physically and verbally whipping her down especially with a little cbt/ass whipping no matter what the final outcome is. Thanks, Bye,

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Verbal rewards- Personally speaking, a “good girl” or “princess” will put me into the happy I want to serve my Dom place faster than anything else. Well, pretty soon your wife and her lover will be settling into their cabin on the cruise ship. I'll bet the first thing they'll do is make passionate love. How does that make you feel, Sissy?" Sometime in the past, she figured out that she could extend my suffering by taking one shoe off at a time. As her friends looked on in amazement, she worked my face over with the smelly foot then the clean one. As I once again stood at attention in the center of Myrna's beautifully appointed living room, she sat in a large green velvet chair and crossed her gorgeous legs. For a few moments there was silence. I was actually sweating. Another thought would be a salon visit. Her they just opened them up a month or so ago. Again staff and customers have to stay masked. It might be a great opportunity for her to experience having hur brows groomed or having lash extensions done if she’s feeling really brave. It’s a lot for someone that doesn’t go out enfemme, but we live in uncertain times so why not embrace things to the fullest.

As a curvy, confident and naturally alpha female I have had men relinquishing their control to me for as long as I can remember and nothing gives me more pleasure than using that power. With my extraordinary appearance, my fiery hair and piercing blue eyes I will have you weak at the knees before you can say ‘yes mistress’. I enjoy most aspects of BDSM, delighting in making men squirm in my presence. I am passionate about what I do and take pleasure in helping you realise your fantasies whilst I revel in the variety of my lifestyle; no request, thought or fantasy is too silly. My ultimate discretion and confidentiality is guarantee and any dominatrix experience with me will be completely judgement free. One way that you can do that is to use positive reinforcement when the submissive is following the rules. Positive reinforcement can be as effective as corporal punishment. Rewards can be used as motivators. As a submissive myself, nothing makes me happier than pleasing my Dominant. If I please him, then he reciprocates with more doting behavior. He delights in making me happy. So if I follow the rules, he rewards me. It makes me want to keep behaving. Positive reinforcement works best for me.Gifts- Gifts do not have to be extravagant. They can be small. For example, maybe the submissive likes chocolate, coffee mugs, or makeup. You can get her one of these items and present it to her when she does as you ask or complies with a rule that has been difficult for her to follow in the past. Glad to learn that you intend to push Alice further down her path of feminization and humiliation. Some suggestions. Remember everything I told you, Sissy. You are to obey mother as you obey me. Do everything she tells you, and don't give her a hard time or you know what will happen. I expect to get a good report from her when I return." Intuition, imagination and understanding the psychology of the dynamic. Use of the tools, equipment and bondage is the easy stuff and I’m great at all of that. I love nice equipment so my dungeon is fully equipped with the best of everything for most BDSM play.

Punishments are the other side of the coin. You’ve agreed to terms. But say you are feeling slightly bratty or maybe you forget (as a sub) what you have agreed to. There are consequences for these behaviors. Maybe it’s early in the relationship and you are given a task. As a sub, your Dom may require proof that you have completed the task when you are out of his presence. Failure to complete the task will result in punishment. As an active member of a group of dominant women in the city and wider environment Miss Bellemare is well experienced in the control and training of submissive males. When you’re on the receiving end of this type of punishment you may be asked to count the number of strikes. Counting aloud can really drive home the importance of the rule and the consequence for breaking it. Myrna gave me a look of absolute disdain as she turned and left me to my sissy task. I felt completely defeated. My wife is not as fitness focused as I am, but she is as tall as me 5’9 and some 6 years younger and used to be a mistress ( that is how I met her.) She has pale skin, has a sharp raven haired bob cut, rose bud shaped lips and a button nose, and the appearance of butter would not melt my mouth.So about once a month, its her turn to host the Bravo watch party so her and about 5 or 6 of her friends show up and, of course, I’m supposed to have all the food and drinks ready. You wouldn’t think women would drink a lot after a gym class but its not long before they are all “feeling it.” If rational limits are agreed upon, I think that both delight and humiliation is actually a pleasure. I must admit that I have a very sadistic side to me. Not only do I wish to be served by a slave who is compelled to submit totally to my desires but I like to inflict pain and see him suffer though I would never cause permanent harm as I look after my property well. If people don't understand this behaviour and think I hate the male creature, they would be wrong. Women who are true believers in Female Domination and Female Supremacy must love the male creature or we would not train them to be what we want them to be. We love them and we rule them and we make them serve like the inferior creatures they are. I have on a number of occasions been criticised for being too severe, though not by any members of my group. I do not think anything contained in this book is severe or extreme but it is thorough and exacting. It is based on over twenty years of experience in dealing with the submissive male and represents, I think, an authoritative manual for success. I do not consider this a book for beginners but rather for those naturally dominant women who have already experienced the pleasures of being served by a slave but wish to take the relationship to new heights. As a submissive, when I hear these things, it helps me relax. It helps me trust. It helps me see myself the way my Dom sees me. I want to please him, and when I please him, he rewards me. And that thrills me more than anything. He has me and it makes me want to do more to please him. I’m delighted and fulfilled when he is happy with me.